The lost art of listening………
It’s a great book by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
We can all improve our listening skills, it’s an art that seems to be lost these days and we’re all guilty of it.
I loved reading the book and found it most educational. We can all improve by allowing people to talk and then by simply responding to what they shared. Validate the other by letting them know you heard what they said.
So often we respond by sharing something similar to what they said about ourselves. This actually invalidates the other person.
When you do this, you immediately dismiss what they said and made it about yourself. It’s not that you can’t share your story, it’s that it’s better to validate what was said to you first.
Slow down, take your time and be kind enough to respond to the words that were spoken. It’s also what the other one is saying, not what you think they’re saying.
Really listen and learn…….
Here’s a secret; we don’t take enough time to really listen to our own stories. We get so comfortable with the pattern of our story, we don’t realize it might not be true.
This is where our suffering lives.
Xo Camille
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