When our identity changes, it can feel scary. We don’t know what we don’t know, and most of us want certainty. We want to be in control. After a life-altering experience, we’re often given a new identity we never asked for. It’s normal to feel uncomfortable with that change. It may come through the loss of someone you love, a job you thought would carry you into retirement, a divorce or breakup, the aging process, or a change in your own health. Loss has a way of turning us i

The Stories We Tell Ourselves I remember the days after my son died. I felt numb and heartbroken all at once. What surprised me most was how certain I was that everyone could see my grief. I carried it so heavily that I believed it was visible to everyone around me. When I walked my dog in the morning, I was convinced people looked at me and knew. There goes the mother who lost her child. I carried that thought everywhere. I hated it. It made me feel worse. It made my grief h

Question your patterns of thought… As we walk through life and experience different challenges, relationships, and losses, we develop patterns. Some are taught to us by our families, and others we create ourselves as a way to cope, survive, and protect who we are. My family taught me both healthy and unhealthy patterns, and I’m sure that’s true for most people. What matters isn’t whether the patterns exist — it’s whether we’re willing to recognize them. Are your patterns help

I didn’t want a new version of myself, but that’s exactly what happened. You can’t go through trauma and return to your old self. I felt like the universe was pushing me — sometimes it felt more like a shove. The new me was emerging whether I liked it or not. What really helped was reflecting on my past experiences. Looking back at everything I had already lived through, and how each experience changed me, made it easier to surrender to this shift. What I knew for certain was

I did it again… I let my brain run wild. I turned one experience into a huge story—one filled with all kinds of terrible, negative meanings (I’m really good at that, by the way). And then you know what happened? I cried. I felt broken. Grief showed up for something that, as it turns out, wasn’t even true. I was miserable. Honestly, it’s been 24 hours, and I still feel it. Here’s the thing about grief—it doesn’t just live in the obvious places. It shows up in the stories we cr

Find the Beauty in Grief When we experience any kind of devastating loss, we feel grief. It can come from losing a loved one, a dream, a relationship, our health, or even a version of ourselves we thought we’d always be. And when it arrives, it doesn’t come quietly. It brings waves of emotion that can feel overwhelming, disorienting, and all-consuming. Our instinct is to resist it. We try to push it down. Ignore it. Outrun it. But grief doesn’t disappear when we deny it—it de

Growing With Grief I’ve been asked to share more about my grief. I’m told people want to hear it. But a part of me still wonders… don’t people get tired of the same story? Then I remind myself—life is a story. Not just what happens to us, but how we see it. How we tell it. How we choose to remember it. If you’ve ever sat with a group of people recalling the same moment, you’ve seen this in real time—everyone tells a different version. That’s proof of something powerful: we ha

The Sentences That Shape Your Life We get in our own way more than we realize. Not because we’re lazy. Not because we lack discipline. But because of the patterns of thinking we’ve practiced for years. We all carry sentences in our minds—on repeat. Sometimes we notice them. Most of the time, we don’t. They sound like this: • I’m not living up to my potential. • I’m not thin enough. • I’m not smart enough. • I’m not strong enough. • I don’t have enough money. These sentences f

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